Created for Connection:

If you're feeling a disconnect in your relationship, know that you're not alone, things can get better. Thousands of couples drift apart daily, yet many of them get through it and become closer than ever. If you're wondering how they do it. If the question on your mind is "how can we grow together when we've already grown apart?" Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples will provide an answer. 

Created for Connection is based on Emotional Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT has been heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success.  It is different from other therapy because it encourages readers to forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing their early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures.

Instead, this book encourage the readers to recognize their behavior in a relationship is largely driven by unconscious emotions and desires because we are created for connection. These emotions and desires cause people to be attached to and dependent on their partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance and/or save relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection.

Created for Connections was written by Dr. Sue Johnson, a world-renowned couples therapist, distinguished research professor, and author and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community.  This emotionally focused couples therapy book is filled with Bible verses, inspiring passages, and Christian-specific advice.  I also love the fact that it contains inspiring real life stories.  

More About Created for Connection & Emotionally Focused Therapy 

Part One: A New Light On Love

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To be honest, some people find part one hard to get through because it is so research based in order to establish the validity of emotionally focused therapy and why it is a remarkably successful program.  If you find you are one of them, I encourage you to either skip part one or listen to the audio version.  

Part Two: Seven Transforming Conversations

Part two is all about Emotionally Focused Therapy. Here, Sue shares the streamlined version of Emotionally Focused Therapy, but in a way that ties into Christian values and beliefs. She also shows us how it is Biblically aligned. This part also offers seven conversations couples need to have. These conversations capture the defining moments in a love relationship. It tells us how to shape these moments in a way that creates a secure and lasting bond. The case histories with the play and practice sections in each conversation is the part that brings the lessons of EFT to life in your relationships. 

Part Three: The Power of Hold Me Tight

Part three is the final part of the book and it addresses the power of love. It has a chapter called Our Bond with God that lays out an attachment view on our connection with God. It also shows us how human love opens us up to the divine in the same way God's love teaches us to reach for each other. Love also heightens our sense of connection to the larger world because responding in love is the basis of a truly compassionate, civilized society.

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Feedback From Readers

Most people who bought this book had only good things to say about it.  They say it's well-reasoned yet emotionally engaging. It's also highly relatable to the average couple and helps people understand a relationship's most basic needs.

 If you've been craving emotional intimacy in your relationship and need advice that aligns with God's Word, this book is a must read. 

Click here to purchase a copy on Amazon.

Other Recommended Relationship Books by Dr. Sue Johnson or on EFT

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Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships

Other Emotional Focused Therapy Resources

An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us-This workbook is full of exercises that can drive closer connections. It's also perfect for use along with Created for Connection.

Created for Connection: Guide for Christian CouplesAn Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of UsLove Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic RelationshipsEmotionally Focused Therapy Techniques to Restore Your Relationship

About the Author: 

Corine Williams, Ph.D. is Clinical Psychologist that is currently seeing clients in the States of Maryland, New Jersey, and New York. You can find out more about her practice by visiting  www.therapyforchristians.com/corinewilliams.  In addition to providing individual therapy, Dr. Williams is also passionate about writing books and designing merch that educate, uplift, and normalize mental health subjects in the Christian community. You can find out more about her at  www.booksbycorine.com or by visiting her amazon profile here: https://www.amazon.com/Corine-Hyman/e/B00AWZ5FL2

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