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Are you tired of people-pleasing and seeking approval at the cost of your own happiness? Break free and rediscover the strength of living authentically and to walking in the call that Christ Jesus has on your life by exploring the below quotes about people pleasing.
In order to help you get the most out of this article, we will first answer the questions "who is a people pleaser," then explore what Jesus says about people pleasing, finally we will take a deep dive into the the best quotes to help you stop people pleasing.
Who Is The People Pleaser?
The term "people pleaser" refers to an individual who has a strong desire to gain approval and acceptance from others. People pleasers often prioritize meeting the expectations and needs of others, sometimes at the expense of their own well-being and personal boundaries. They tend to go to great lengths to make others happy, often sacrificing their own desires and opinions in the process.
People pleasers may struggle with asserting themselves, setting boundaries, and making decisions that align with their own values and desires. It is important to note that being a people pleaser is a behavioral pattern that can be changed with self-awareness and personal growth.
What Did Jesus Say About People Pleasing?
Jesus spoke about people pleasing and the approval of others in the Bible. Specifically, in Matthew 6:1-2, he warns against performing acts of righteousness solely for recognition, emphasizing that true righteousness comes from a sincere heart dedicated to pleasing God.
In Luke 16:15, Jesus confronts those who prioritize their public image over their inward motives, highlighting the importance of aligning our hearts with God's will. Finally, in John 5:41-44 points out the tendency to seek recognition from others instead of seeking God's approval.
Jesus emphasizes prioritizing God's approval over the opinions of people, encouraging authenticity and devotion to God's will. These teachings inspire us to let go of people pleasing and focus on pleasing God.
Quotes About Why People Pleasing Can Be Problematic
People pleasing can lead to emotional stress, physical health problems, low self-esteem, and a lack of boundaries. It can strain relationships and result in neglecting one's own needs and authenticity. Recognizing and addressing these effects is crucial for personal growth and well-being which is why we found the below quotes to help drive home the problems with people pleasing.
"So if someone exhibits a negative or sharp feeling due to you asserting yourself, the people-pleaser will immediately consider it their duty to change that feeling back or prevent it in the first place.” – Patrick King
“Sometimes you don’t realize you are actually drowning when you are trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” – Anonymous
“If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.” – Lecrae
“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” – Anonymous
"If pleasing other people becomes the goal, you will spend the rest of your life trying to satisfy and you’ll never have peace." - T.D. Jakes
“People pleasing pleases everyone but the pleaser.” – Sanjo Jendayi
"People-pleasers are driven by a deep and piercing fear of rejection." – Patrick King
“They try to please others, give to others, and care for others in a desperate hope that they may make themselves worthy.” – Beverly Engel
Quotes to Help You Break Free from People Pleasing:
Pin It"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu
“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Aristotle
"We must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please." Lysa TerKeust
“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” – Brigham Young
“If I were surrounded by people who always approved of me, I wouldn’t need such a deep relationship with my own sense of right and wrong.” – Vironika Tugaleva
“As much as I don’t want to admit it, I really am a people pleaser. If I throw a party at my house, it’s hard for me to relax. I’m too obsessed with whether everyone’s having a good time.” – Rachael Harris
"While being you and truly sharing what you do will bring happiness to others, you won’t find contentment merely trying to keep others happy.” – Rasheed Ogunlaru
"Always be respectful and kind, but if you go through life trying to please everyone, the one person who won't be happy is you." - Joel Osteen
“People-pleasers feel they must constantly be performing acts of service to others to gain acceptance. That requires a lot of work, effort, and energy. From the book: Removing Your Shame Label.” – Eddie Capparucci
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.” – Jim Carrey
"Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.” – Irma Kurtz
“Your time is way too valuable to be wasting on people that can’t accept who you are.” – Turcois Ominek
“You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.” – Mandy Hale
“Important reminders for a people pleaser: Someone else’s thoughts and desires do not require a change in your own beliefs or another item on your to-do list.” – Unknown
“To be truly positive in the eyes of some, you have to risk appearing negative in the eyes of others.” – Criss Jami
“I can't tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” – Ed Sheeran
“If you find yourself craving approval, you are low on self-love. Stop grasping for a few scraps wherever you can. Go home and make yourself a feast. Love yourself deeply today.” – Vironika Tugaleva
“Don’t be a people pleaser. Trust your instincts.” – Salome Mumba
“I’m done living for other people. I’m done being a people pleaser. I’m done thinking about what people think about me.” – Shailene Woodley
“Self-Care is giving the world the best of you, not the rest of you.” – Katie Reed
“The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eyes of others.” – Becca Lee
“The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.” – Nicole Lyons
“You must stop pleasing others because those other people literally have no idea who you ARE.” – Julie Lythcott-Haims
“I'm a big people pleaser; I had a very awkward adolescence. Part of me is still that person who wants everyone to like me.” – Alissa Nutting
“I surrendered myself to the cages of others' expectations, cultural mandates and institutional allegiances. Until I buried who I was in order to become what I should be. I lost myself when I learned how to please.” – Glennon Doyle
“I used to be a major people pleaser, but that way purgatory lies.” – Tracie Bennett
“Niceness is the psychological armor of the people-pleaser.” – Harriet B. Braiker
“Let your light shine today, and let your personality blossom, too. You don't have to be a people-pleaser, just a people-lover.” – Beth Moore
“The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there is always at least one person who will remain unhappy. You.” – Elizabeth Parker
“As women, we have more of a tendency to be people-pleasers, and I know a lot of women who are not vocal about what makes them happy.” – Katherine Heigl
“Both of my marriages have taught me the same lesson twice over really harsh: listen to your instincts. Don't be a people pleaser.” – Drew Barrymore
“I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” – Ed Sheeran
“There’s something very addictive about people pleasing. It’s a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.” – Anne Hathaway
"What God says is important, not what man says. Do not be a people pleaser, but be a God pleaser" - Christine Caine
“The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there is always at least one person who will remain unhappy. You.” – Elizabeth Parker
“Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.”
“Self-Care is giving the world the best of you, not the rest of you.” – Katie Reed
“The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.” – Nicole Lyons
"I was always going to let someone down so I decided it wouldn’t be me anymore.”
“The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eyes of others.” – Becca Lee
“‘No’ is a complete sentence. It does not require justification or explanation.”
“People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” – Abraham Hicks
“Don’t be a people pleaser… be a self pleaser… it’s not ego… it’s called self-respect.” – Preeta Gupta
"Don’t be a people pleaser. Trust your instincts.” – Salome Mumba
I cant tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone. Ed Sheeran
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.” – Jim Carrey
“Saying NO can be the most empowering word if you struggle with codependency, abusive relationships or low self-esteem.” – Unknown
“If the personality of a people-pleaser had to be summed up in one word, that word would be nice. But, if you have the Disease to Please, nice isn't just a personality description. Being nice is shorthand for a full-blown belief system that dictates how to act with other people so that bad things won't happen to you.” – Harriet B. Braiker
“Pleasing everybody is never a responsibility. If they like you for who you are, good. If not, it’s their problem not yours.”
“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.” – Shannon L. Alder
Final Thoughts Quotes about People Pleasers
I am praying that a few of the above quotes have inspired you to let go of any people pleasing ways you may have. You can find more inspiration on how to break free from people pleasing in our article entitled: How to Overcome Being a People-Pleaser. However, if you continue to struggle with people pleasing despite your best efforts, a Christian life coach or therapist may be able to help. You can search our Christian mental health provider directory here:
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